3 Tips to Overcome the End of Year Struggle

by | May 4, 2022 | Blog, Latest News & Posts

The struggle is REAL. Do you ever feel as though you are not doing enough for your homeschooled kiddos?

Or you are not sure if what you are currently doing is the right thing?

Do you ask yourself, “Am I ruining my kids for life?  Am I setting them up for failure?”

This time of year, which I call “the struggle is real” is rife with second guessing, dwelling on what never got done this year or what still needs to be done. Couple that with world uncertainty and you have a recipe for disappointment and overwhelm.

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Dear homeschool mom, this would happen to me every single year, both in the early days as well as my veteran homeschool days.

Why?

We all take our role as “Parent as Primary Teacher” very seriously.

We constantly give ourselves a non-stop performance review in our heads.  In other words, we let this really critical boss tell us we are not doing enough, that we could be doing more, and that the kids would be better off in a different situation.

YES, even when our hearts are saying homeschooling is the best education for our precious kiddos!

Here are three tips I use to get that pesky, finger-pointing boss out of my head, and begin to follow my heart!

#1: Love always wins.

Jesus the source of LOVE. Replace that critical self-made boss immediately with the image of our Lord Jesus.  Visualize Him, and most importantly stop whatever you are doing and be present in His Love. When you can, go to Adoration, even for a quick visit. It literally changes everything.

Adoration Chapel at Marytown

I could not always get to daily Mass or Adoration when my children were little, so I made a spiritual communion, a desire in my heart to be one with Him. Vinny Flynn in his book 7 Secrets of the Eucharist , in his last chapter, talks so beautifully about this tremendous gift, spiritual communion, Jesus is always available!

Join Perpetual Adoration with the Conventual Franciscan Friars at Marytown through their Adoration Streaming.

#2: Make a list.

Writing things down always brings clarity. Period, end of sentence.  I know that it is so tempting to just let those self-defeating thoughts roll around in your head. Better yet it is super tempting to call a friend and complain. 

Now don’t get me wrong, it is a good thing to vent your frustrations to get the struggle out of your head. BUT writing down all those thoughts truly helps to put clarity into the big picture.

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If you think you did not do enough this year, write down what you think you can reasonably finish in these last few weeks, give yourself 15 minutes to brainstorm and put pen to paper.

Then chose only the 3 TOP things you can reasonably do! These should be lined up with the one area of growth you want to see with your children (I teach you this in the Catholic Homeschool Blueprint). Let go of the rest!

This instantly makes you get outside your head and feeling productive. Forget the past, it is done and over with. Just move forward. Make a list.

#3: Plan a celebration.

You are amazing and serve your family with your whole heart and soul. Please remember that!!

There is no doubt that even though you may feel your homeschooling came up short, there is without a doubt some wins!  Did one of your kids learn to read? Was there a sacrament received by one of your children this year? Did you learn more about one of your children’s interests/strengths?

Celebrate the good stuff that happened this year. There is sooooo much more to homeschooling than accomplishing the academic achievements.  It truly is about forming the people in our care in an environment of love and truth.  That is something to really celebrate!

Now it’s your turn, what do you do at the end of school year to finish up on the upswing?

Please comment and share, I’d love to hear your suggestions!

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1 Comment

  1. Andrea Hornecker

    We have a celebratory workbook burning with our first s’mores of the season! (Usually Memorial weekend)

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